Doubts about our abilities as mothers are totally normal…but completely unfounded.
Here’s why your kids need you as their mom!
Happy Friday, friends! Life has been verrrrry interesting lately, what with this new baby around and the stress of figuring out how to manage and balance all of my mothering responsibilities. Every big transition is like that, don’t you think? Super crazy and overwhelming for a while, then you gradually settle into a routine and, for better or for worse, this becomes your new normal.
I’ve realized that anytime life throws us curveballs, lots of insecurities and doubts tend to come along with them. Thoughts about what we’re messing up and about how the rest of our life may be adversely affected by these changes. Having a new baby means less housework gets done, less time spent with the other kids, fewer opportunities to finish work projects and thoughts about whether or not we’re up for all the new responsibilities and stressors.
Being a mom of a big family means that I struggle with self-doubt and insecurities every. single. day. I strongly believe that God called me to be a mom, to have all these kids, to homeschool them and to lead the life we live. But that doesn’t mean that I don’t constantly wonder about all the ways I’m failing every day.
Here’s the thing: your kids are your kids on purpose. It’s no crapshoot that each family ends up together; all parents have personality traits, talents and abilities designed to help prepare their specific kids to become the best people they can be. I know that sounds like a tall order to fill; personally it seems impossible that I could ever give all my children everything they need.
The important thing to remember is how little our kids actually need to thrive. Yes, that’s right…how little. They don’t need Pinterest parties or a mom in runway-worthy looks or even homecooked meals. I know I’ve talked about this before, but when Luke and I got certified to become foster parents, we walked out of the training thinking about how we, and every single parent we know, are doing a pretty freaking stellar job. We love our kids, we try to do right by them and we leave the rest up to God.
None of us knows exactly what sorts of trials we (or our children) will encounter in our lives. But I really believe that we’ll be equipped to handle them because of the families we’ve been given. Sure, our kids drive us crazy and our parents aren’t perfect – but we’re meant to be right where we are.
While our children don’t need picture perfect moms and dads, they do need parents who love each other and their kids and who admit and apologize when they make mistakes. They need parents who realize the blessings of being a parent and at least try to enjoy it now and then! Parenthood ain’t for sissies…but I know each of us has what it takes to be GREAT at it!